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Why You Should Concentrate on Reconciliation, NOT Resolution

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Are reconciliation and resolution the same thing? There's actually a very important difference. Reconciliation means to reestablish the relationship.  Resolution means to resolve every issue.

Why You Should Concentrate on Reconciliation, NOT Resolution

Resolution suggests that we come to agreement on everything. We are of one mind in every area. The truth is, there are some things you're never going to agree with your mate on.

Even if you and your spouse are both committed Christ followers, there are still some things you're never going to agree on. Why? God has wired us differently. We see life differently. Sometimes, it's not a matter of right or wrong. Sometimes, it's a matter of perspective.

If you try to bring everything into agreement in your life, you're going to beat your head against the wall for the rest of your life. You're not going to agree with everything your mate believes or thinks.

But you can disagree without being disagreeable. That's called wisdom.  

James 3:17 "But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others."  

The Bible says it's wise to compromise.

We can have unity without uniformity. We can walk hand in hand without seeing eye to eye. We can have reconciliation without resolution of every issue. We can disagree without being disagreeable.

When we focus on reconciliation (which is the relationship) the issues become secondary in importance, and sometimes they really don't matter that much.

Some of you are worn out from the conflict in your marriage because you're stuck, and you don't know how to get on with it. You may even want to give in and throw in the towel.

I encourage you not to quit. Don’t give up. It is more rewarding to resolve a conflict than it is to dissolve a relationship.  

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