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Laying Down Your Right to Be Offended


What offends you? How easily do you get offended? Did you know that taking offense is a choice? Even when someone hurts you, you have the power to control your response. Even when you feel like you have the RIGHT to be offended, you can choose to lay down that right, and instead, rise above the offense.

Make the choice. Refuse to be offended. You will actually be happier in the long run. 

The reality is there’s a lot in life you could get offended by. When it comes to personal relationships, God says, “As much as you can, try not to be offended by other people.” In other words if you wanted to you could have such a thin skin everything everybody does offends you... And you’re going to be unhappy most of your life.

Emotional and spiritual maturity is largely determined by how you treat those who mistreat you. Do I get even? If they hit me, I hit them back? If they hurt me, I hurt them back? If they insult me, I insult them back? If they get angry at me I get angry back? Then I’m no better than they are. Emotional and spiritual maturity is determined by my reaction to the people who try to hurt me.  

How do I handle those kinds of people?  

One of the keys to happiness in life is we need to develop a thicker skin and just not be offended by so many things.  What we need to pray and say is, “God, give me a tender heart and tough skin.” Usually we get the opposite. We get thin skinned and tough hearted.

How do I do that? How do I keep from taking personal offense at the crazymakers in my life? How do I not get upset about these people? One way is just consider the source: They’re a crazymaker – and try to ignore it as much as possible. The Bible says to do that.  

Proverbs 12:16, “A fool is quick tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted.”