Love Speaks Kindly

Ephesians 4:15 “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”

A lot of people like to brag that they just “tell it like it is.” But, actually, scripture calls us to speak the truth in love. That second part is essential—and often overlooked. Truth without love can wound, but truth spoken with love can heal and restore.

Galatians 6:1 reminds us: “Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path…”

Notice the words gently and humbly. It’s not about shaming or scolding or putting someone in their place—it’s about loving people enough to encourage them toward obeying God. Your words matter. So does your tone.

Here’s a simple principle: Right + Rude = Wrong.

You may be right, but if your words are harsh, your message will be lost. People become defensive when they feel attacked. But when we approach them with gentleness, they’re more open to listen and grow.

Proverbs 15:4 in the Message paraphrase puts it beautifully: “Kind words heal and help; cutting words wound and maim.”

This is especially true with our children. A sharp word in a moment of frustration can leave lasting scars. But gentle, affirming words can build confidence and character for life. The same goes for our marriages and friendships. A little grace, a softer tone, a kind word—these small shifts can bring big healing.

Our words should always be true… but they should lift up and encourage. Our words should be kind. So this week, ask yourself: How can I use my words to bring healing, not hurt?

Loving people well means loving them with our words.